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*The EX Factor*
I read from somewhere that exes are like telemarketers: Unavoidable and freaking annoying. I'm sure more than 80% of you will unanimously agree with it. Everyone had an ex issue. While some people manage to call a truce before too much blood is shed, most of us are still seeing out the war.
It is difficult not to be a little jealous when hearing stories about the great times your man had with their exes and it is even tougher having to deal with your man keeping close contact with them now. I, for one would definitely be displeased if there is a continual presence of my man's exes in our lives. The insecurities and fears will bound to taint the relationship in one way or another in the long run.
They might have really broken up and have truly become friends but I still find it extremely hard to accept if my man is still calling up his ex, making dinner dates and buying presents for her even in the name of friendship. After all, SHE is the woman who originally had his heart. If getting along was all that harmonious, why did they breakup in the first place?
Situations are often made worse when a guy keeps his contact with his ex a secret from his current girlfriend. Not talking about it doesn't mean being honest. And lying is worse.
Of course, if they are really friends and he's open and honest about it, I wouldn't have mind so much. Chances are I'll even befriend her. But that guy has better be worth his weight in gold because having to put up seeing your man and his ex going out for dinner and exchanging presents isn't a very fun thing to do. Honestly, I'll rather avoid dating men with even a hint of their ex in the picture to save myself from future angst.
I'm not a green-eyed monster who will fly into a jealous rage whenever my boyfriend speaks about their exes. (Unless she's being mentioned 9 times out of the 10 conversations we have) Trust is the key. I'm totally reasonable and understanding. =) Umm. And nice.
What spark off this entry is because many girls have issues with me. Yes, even when I am NOT their men's ex. I have heard stories of how these girls banned their boyfriends from coming to my site, talking to me, forcing them to delete me from their msn and basically they are just not allowed to keep any form of contact with me. All I can say is I can fully comprehend these actions.
It's definitely not being childish. The fear of losing your man only shows how much he meant to you. But of course, personally, I will never impose rules and regulations on my boyfriend because we are all adults and should be responsible for our actions.Perhaps the most important lesson to learn is that your life is about today, not yesterday. So guys, if an ex issue is going to affect your current relationship, do something about it. And girls, if he's worth holding onto, he'll make it right! ;)